You Are Unique, But Your Problems Aren't

Eddie Villa Explains How To Recognize The Commonality Of Your Problems & The Uniqueness Of Your Strengths To Live Your Life

On an episode of Eddie Villa’s Unleash Your Strengths podcast he dares you to think differently about your problems and yourself. Specifically, to believe that you are unique, but your problems are not. By believing that you are unique and your problems are common, you can tap into two strengths — social support and self-actualization — to reprogram your mind and your body to dramatically change the conditions of your life. Doing so is attainable by following three simple steps:

STEP 1: Say It Out Loud. “My Problem Is: ________________.”

Name your problem, see it for what it is, and find strength in numbers. Someone else has or had any problem you can name. It is nearly impossible that you are the only person with that problem or (this is important) who feels like it. Common problems imply common solutions; if other people managed it, chances are that you can, too. Once you see that other people have your same problem(s), you can seek them out and have supportive conversations about it. Two heads are really better than one; if you have social support, you will likely gain insight that helps you solve or change how you think about the problem so it ceases to exist. Even without those connections or conversations, you can use your knowledge of your problem's commonness to inform your belief that your problem is solvable.

STEP 2: Take The Gallup Strengthsfinder Test.

See The Uniqueness Of Your Strengths. Your Gallup Strengthsfinder test results show the unique combination of 34 different strengths that constitutes how you do things, see the world, solve problems, and view yourself. It is almost mathematically impossible for two people to have the same arrangement of strengths. Nevertheless, you have likely felt that your strengths are as common as your problems are unique. The logic of that mindset is that neither you nor anybody else will be able to solve your problem(s); common strengths cannot address uncommon challenges. But if it is true that you have infinite uniqueness within you, as the test says, then you can apply your strengths to solve every problem you have. Knowledge of your infinite uniqueness enables you to become self-actualized. If you believe that you, specifically, can solve your problem(s), trying will no longer feel futile. That belief will change how you see things, what you feel, and how your body reacts to challenges.

STEP 3: Say It Out Loud. “This Is What I Want: _______________.”

When you visualize what you want in your life and how you want your problems to resolve, your body reacts to getting a glimpse of that reality; you experience waves of feelings. First, there is excitement, forecasting what it would be like to live the life you want. Then, there is fear, confirming that you care about attaining that life. Before the fear sets in, you are feeling what it is like to be self-actualized. Imagine feeling that excitement all the time. Imagine how your actions would change and try acting that way. Armed with the knowledge that your strengths are unique and your problems are solvable, you can go all-in in your pursuit of that feeling. You can make your efforts big — bigger than they are now — and leverage your strengths to solve your problems so that you can lead the life you want to live. And that is the key: your beliefs lead your actions and your actions lead your reactions. If you act how you would act if you felt the way you want to feel, you can reprogram your mind and your body, all the way down to your cells. Your mindset shapes the conditions of your reality. If you live your life believing that your problems are solvable and you have the necessary strengths to solve them, you will create the reality you want to live in.