The TRIGGER that set off my 11 year old daughter
If we don't acknowledge the events that trigger our negative emotions we are doomed to repeat the lack of production that followed them.
Have you ever gotten really angry, sad, lonely or depressed and then there is a period of time that goes by where you don't produce anything? Most likely you stopped serving your own passions and chose to focus on the needs of others for a while. How long did that last? Was it a couple days? A couple weeks? A couple years? Your whole life?
7 years ago I was fired twice within a 60 day period. THAT TRIGGER led to a depression that cost me 3 years of my life. 3 FRIKKIN' YEARS!!! During that time I pretended to be growing myself. During that period I pretended to do the business that ultimately changed our family's lives. During that period I lost myself in lies that reduced my comfort zone down to almost nothing. THAT 3 YEARS ALMOST COST ME THE REST OF MY LIFE.
I am so grateful for my wife Angela devoting herself to her own growth. I am so grateful that I was looking for proof that I could get myself back on top again. When Angela began showing signs of becoming the amazing person she is today I took notice and the thing that needed to happen finally did.
I GOT TIRED OF BEING WHERE I WAS. My tolerance for my fears keeping me where I was had reached it's end.
I went to work on myself and got myself to a place where the man I was before I was fired would be jealous of the man I am today. Although I am grateful for that transformation in my life I must look back and find the lesson. The lesson is critical so that I can handle things like this better in the future AND I can help others be better at it too.
WHAT WAS THE TRIGGER?
I got fired twice
WHAT WAS THE STORY I TOLD?
I am not valuable
HOW DID I ACT WHEN I THOUGHT IT WAS TRUE?
I stopped challenging myself because there was no point anymore.
HOW DID IT EFFECT MY FAMILY AND THE PEOPLE AROUND ME?
They could no longer count on me when times got hard.
What should your takeaway be for this?
The moment you notice you are angry, sad, lonely, depressed or any other negative emotion.... just stop and ask these questions. GET CLEAR about what's happening in your mind and how it's effecting your actions. THEN DO THE WORK!
Sometimes the people we love OR social media creates "TRIGGERS". WATCH THE VIDEO BELOW where I break down my daughters trigger this morning AND how a post I did on FACEBOOK triggered people who commented.