I was tired of always being behind with everything
These are the things I HATED that I was really good at
In this video below I will show you the depths that I would go to just to be able to keep pretending I WASN'T BROKE...
my daily power messages and daily activities
Before I played basketball this morning I was creating visions of myself getting hurt. When I played I played scared. I played HORRIBLY!
That’s a positive because it exposed a trigger in me that also effects every aspect of my life. When I get hurt I play scared.
The lesson I learned is that if I create visuals of things going wrong I play the game scared.
HOW CAN I APPLY THIS?
When it comes to my health it means that when I create visuals about my health being poor or with making bad decisions in the kitchen I play scared and I suck.
How this applies to my spirituality and mindset is that if I am not mentally healing while I physically heal I end up playing life scared. I end of sucking at life.
When it come to my relationships I play very scared after being hurt. Like when my daughter was angry with me and cut me off I became too scared to reach out to her for almost a year.
How this lesson applies to my business is that when enough people didn’t buy what I had to sell or just stopped returning my messages I played every conversation afterwards scared and that creates even worse results.
When I get hurt and don’t do the work I create visuals of things goin wrong. When I create visuals of things going wrong I play scared. When I play scared I suck at the game.
MY 48 HOUR COMMITMENT
Do THE WORK on my mindset surrounding this knee injury.
HOW I DID THE WORK ON MY MINDSET WITH MY KNEE
What I do is ask my self a series of VALUABLE questions that my mentor taught me. This designed to help me get clear about how I feel bout what's happened. How it effects my actions. It also helps me re-channel my engird on this in a way that will benefit every aspect of my life.
THIS IS HOW I GROW
QUESTION: What is the situation that occurred?
I injured my knee last week and so I created visuals of getting hurt again this morning and the end result was I sucked.
QUESTION: What is the story?
I need to play careful or I will just get hurt again.
QUESTION: Are you 100% sure that story is true?
QUESTION: What is the feeling you are experiencing because of this story?
QUESTION: What actions to you want to take when you think the story is true?
I want to take it real easy and just pretend to be working out.
QUESTION: What do you really want for everyone involved?
For me I want to play basketball and exercise without fear of injury. I want my knee to be healthy without me having to favor it. I want for me and my knee to kick ass on the basketball court.
QUESTION: Will the current story give you what you want?
QUESTION: What might be possible if the original story wasn't true?
you in this situation if the Current Story was False?I would be able to do the steps required to get on the court with confidence.
END OF PART 1
PART 2 of the work will be in the next BLOG post.
do the work and don't tell me how you feel about it
That was how I percieved what a man did and was.
However there was something I couldn't ignore.
Here's what happens when a man like me tries to ignore his emotions because the people around him hate it when he shows them.
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My daily power message and story
I started reaching out to my daughter who hasn't spoken to me in a year and today I noticed she is saving my messages.
This is a positive because this means even though she is not talking to me she is not ignoring me.
Things that appear impossible can be achieved with consistent and sincere effort every day.
HOW DOES THIS APPLY
When it comes to my health goals I can reach my goal of 228 lb guaranteed as long as I commit to consistent sincere effort every day. Staying on plan can be an emotional daily decision.
When it comes to my spirit daily prayer is required. A sincere conversation with my Heavenly Father helps make the impossible POSSIBLE by staying sincere in my daily prayer.
This lesson is obviously applying to my relationships with the focus rebuilding of trust with my oldest daughter who I think about every day.
When it comes to my business I can remember that daily invitations and commitment to focusing on solving the problems of others will bring me results daily.
The truth that I am discovering here is that massive change requires consistent, sincere and small actions daily that bring on massive results in the long run.
MY 48 HOUR COMMITMENT
I am committed to keeping my daily self development small and consistently done before 8am every day.
My purpose in life comes from the most painful experiences in my life. The truth is that I wouldn't have much passion for what I do if it didn't solve really difficult problems that I have learned how to navigate.
Taking about it on a daily basis has also helped me realize how many people have so much in common with me. Once I realized there was not only a personal way I could grow but I could also help others grow AND MONETIZE IT so I can do it for a living!
THIS IS TRUE ENTREPRENEURIAL THINKING
If you are looking to create a business for yourself start by asking yourself these 6 questions.
1. What problems did I have that were aweful?
2. What kind of pain did it cause?
3. What was life after I found a solution?
4. How can I teach it to others?
5. How can I increase my marketing skill to be able to reach more people who were like me?
6. How can I increase my sales skill so I can make this a business so that I can do it full time?
In ROBERT KIYOSAKI'S BOOK "RICH DAD POOR DAD"
He discusses making money. In order to grow an income that is sustainable and will allow you more freedoms in life then you must grow from E to S to B to I.
Getting clear about the problems you had, what the pain was like, what your life is like now with the new possibility and how you got there is the clearest way to get moving forward.
Watch the video below so you can see why my passion behind my business fuels my personal growth as well as my business growth.
WHY MY BUSINESS IS PERSONAL part 1: My Painful Doctor Visit
In case you are wondering about those vitamins I mentioned
My daily lesson
I just spent the last 13 days documenting my 90 day push and I have had a few people message me that they are enjoying following.
That’s a positive because pushing myself can effect me. Pushing myself in front of others can effect more than just me.
I can effect change in more than just me by being vulnerable about my passions and what I am doing to follow them.
APPLICATION TO MY LIFE
I can more effectively lose weight and prove hmmm health by talking about it and making it relevant for others.
When it comes to my spirit I can be more spiritual and honor my morality by being honest about what I am doing daily.
When it comes to my relationships I can do the work required to repair my relationship with my oldest daughter who I miss and make it relevant for anyone else going through the same things.
I can be held publicly accountable for the growth of my business by being honest about where we are with it. I don’t have a boss and keeping the details about my business a secret tells too many lies about what we do. Full transparency in my business will help others more understand the infinite value to doing what I do.
THE REAL REVELATION I AM LEARNING
The big realization for me is that being 100% vulnerable and transparent creates personal growth and value for others. Hiding it doesn’t challenge me or anyone else.
MY 48 HOUR COMMITMENT
In the next 48 hours I will do a FB Live about where I am with my goals. Be absolutely real, raw and relevant. Share my plan to improve. THE SPECIFICS.
In the past I have always pushed hard because...
...I was always desperate for fast results. Like if I wanted to lose 40 lbs I wanted it off in a week. I know it's crazy but it's allows true. It wasn't until I got coaching and started hanging around the ultra successful that I realized you have to take regular breaks!
So during a push like this working 6 days and then taking 1 off every week has really made a difference. Here's my day off and how I am doing with my goals so far.
ASSESMENT FROM GOALS
1. Eating "On Plan" 24 out of 28 meals. Weight loss is in the kitchen
2. Getting my meditation and journal writing before 9am and making sure it is always posted in the BLOG
3. Making sure that all dates and messages are scheduled in my calendar daily
4. Having 40 people in our business pushing for 90 days with me and doing weekly calls where they can connect on a regular basis.
WHAt's not working?
1. Not planning ahead for late night snack attacks.
2. Doing it after my workouts.
3. Not including my oldest daughter who I miss in my messages.
4. Still looking for 5 more people who want to make $1500 a month by end December 2018
strategy to improve
1. Plan dinner and after dinner meals or snacks by 2pm every day
2. Meditate before workouts and basketball to be more focused and efficient
3. Message my oldest daughter on Snapchat. I just found her profile.
4. Do a weekly webinar on the benefits and requirements on the positions
I believed i was sick and there was nothing i could do about it.
When you are young and adults are telling you that you have a pre-determined genetic condition that could shorten your life it's... hard to believe. I am so glad it was really hard for me to believe it too. I'm only sorry it took me a very long time to lean I could think my way better.
WATCH THIS AMAZING INTERVIEW I HAD WITH JASON MOORE
My personal power message and daily activities
My daughter who typically likes to stay in her room and do her own thing really wanted to go on a walk with me this morning which is very unusual.
That's a positive because she is one of my kids that I wanted to create a deeper connection with. So I started sending her messages everyday telling her I loved her, what I loved about her and then I would share some cool info about something she likes hearing about.
The lesson I learned is that real connection can be created with small focused messages every day. Depending on where the relationship the amount of time it takes is the only difference.
How this applies to my health is that I can do smaller things everyday that are challenging but can also be done over a long period of time without leading to burnout will give me the LONG TERM results I want with my weight and my health.
This can also be applied to my spirituality by remembering daily mediation and prayer will create more space in my mind and life in the long run which is what I truly want with my life productivity.
How this easily applies to my relationships to my kids and wife are the same. Simple actions every day on a consistent basis planned and executed specifically to let them know I think about them every day. I will never lose focus.
When it comes to my business I will always remember that massive results can come with a long term commitment to the small and realistic. Much like my daughter my business and success will reciprocate once I show it that same attention on a daily basis.
I realize that when I get two the point of desperation with any part of my life it is because of a lack of commitment to the small and realistic.
In the next 48 hours I am going to list out the small things to serve one thing in my health, one thing in my spirit, one thing in my relationships and ONE THING IN MY BUSINESS. This will guarantee massive growth.
day 12 of 90
When you do self development everyday ideas flow
You have to develop the skill to be able to break these ideas down into small digest-able doses so you can get them done and well. Also it helps yo sift through which ideas need to be fleshed out and with ones need to sit in the idea cooker for a while.
For me I write everything down in as great of detail as I can. I love this format of WHAT, WHY, WHEN and HOW so that I can prioritize it all.
WE WERE MEANT TO BE PRODUCERS.
Here's how I break down my latest project that will benefit dōTERRA Wellness Advocates who lack support and the promotion of a great cause called Operation Underground Railroad.
CHEK OUT HOW I BREAK IT DOWN IN THE VIDEO BELOW
MY DAILY PRACTICE AND POWER MESSAGES
Knee update and a short work day. Keep the ideas coming and avoid feeling overwhelmed
Someone working with a group I am leading just messaged me and quit. This person said it’s "just not the right time". Which is not an explanation at all. I feel obligated to help her see that this is not acceptable.
That’s a positive because when I am not doing the work myself it’s easy for me to give people a pass because I give myself passes all the time when it gets hard. This reaction proves that I am doing the work when it’s hard and I am giving myself credit for it.
When I work hard and push through the resistance that we all feel I become more of a leader than person who allows others to quit on themselves.
HOW CAN I APPLY IT?
I can apply this lesson to my health by remembering I must always leave the gym knowing I did the work. I must always make good decisions with my eating even when I really really want to have something I shouldn’t. This will allow me the strength to hold others to a higher standard.
When it come to my spirituality I will commit to remembering. That everything happens FOR ME... especially when it looks like it’s not. I will do it when it’s REALLY hard.
When it comes to my relationships I will push through to make sure my intentions are always felt even when I am becoming resentful of my wife or kids.
This lesson applies to my business by reminding me to always take risks when there is no proof that any particular idea will work. Always take chances and put my money where my mouth is. That’s what I expect anyone on my team to do. I have to live it first so that I have the strength to set that expectation with everybody because I understand what it’s like to be afraid
MY BIG REVELATION
I can never expect others to push beyond their own limits if I am not doing that myself.
In the next 48 hours I am going to stick to my own plan eating 100%. Especially when I get in the moment when I really really want something I shouldn’t.
How long does it take after a set back to get back to work?
It is always different for me. The longest it ever took me was 3 years. I was fired twice in a 60 day period and it took me 3 years to get past the story that I was telling myself.
"I am not valuable"
That was the story. I focused on it. Made it bigger. Constantly sought proof that it was true and so there I remained trapped in my body and mind. My capacity to do good with my life striking more and more every day.
Watch the video below.
Do not watch this video until you have watched what happened yesterday
CLICK HERE if you haven't watch it yet. Then come back to this one.
MY DAILY MESSAGE and story
Today I set into motion 3 projects. DESPITE CHALLENGES
1. A group to launch a major charity opportunity
2. Planned and Launched a Las Vegas event
3. Created a 5 day LEVEL UP challenge
The details on these are coming soon as we work them out this weekend
Today I got really pumped today after I decided to start and finish 3 big projects with the help of some awesome people. It came from bouncing back after what I thought was a set back
It's a positive because massive set backs always present inspired outcomes. I just need to say to myself it's there. All I have to do is find it.
What I learned was that inspired ideas come from my painful experiences after I take action to better myself
HOW I WILL APPLY IT
This applies to my body because I can keep working out and eating on plan. Even when set backs happen there's something of powerful value coming. I just have to look for it.
When it comes to my spirituality I can always remember that heaven father always has my back. I can use every event (no matter how I feel about it at first) as an opportunity my heavenly father is blessing me with.
When it comes to my relationships with my kids and wife I can always remember that they love me. They truly want me in their lives. Even when they get frustrated with me and lash out I can always see it as proof that they love and desire a deep connection with me. I can always ask how is this your way of wanting to connect with me? LOL!
How it applies to my business is easy. The numbers DON'T LIE! It's all feedback and is an indication that my business loves me unconditionally. It will always tell me the truth. I just need to read it and see how it's to my benefit.
Everything is to my benefit. No matter how I feel about it at first.
MY ACTION PLAN
I am committed to sharing my lessons with others because it keeps me honest and accountable.
I imagine it won't be my last
The truth is that during an extreme leveling up like only I would attempt (Yeah I tend to be a little extreme when I want to do something) there are going to be challenges coming at you from all over the place. Usually it's family but for me it was something that impacts something I love so much about my morning workout routines.
WARNING: This is not pretty.
Give it a watch...
MY DAY and MY DAILY LESSONS
LISTEN TO MY INTERVIEW WITH COURAGE CAST HOST ERIC NORDHOFF
If you don't have a personal stake in the business you are in then it will not work because you won't.
I care more about my business than ever cared about the company's I have worked for. The last two companies I worked for I excelled at a level that drew a lot of attention to me.
The reason I got so good at what I was doing was because I found a personal reason for them. The last job I had I was only employed there for 3 months before I was being asked to train all the new people who were coming in.
When I worked for a really great call center that I inevitably fell in love with I was rebounding from a very bad beat in my life.
It had been almost two years since I was fired the second time in 60 days. I was still doubting myself but this new job. I had to be great at it. I had to or else I knew I would never recover from it all. In my first month there I struggled and I am so glad they didn't fire me too.
I hung in and at some point something magical happened.
The hard work paid off and I get really good... really fast. It wasn't long before I had developed my own system that I could teach others how to duplicate. The company liked me a lot because I found my fire again. I found the winner in me again.
NOW... 7 years later I am making the next chapter of our business personal. It is my focus and mission to help 5 other people find their own passion in joining us. It's not about me anymore. IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU. I will never be satisfied with this mission until we hit that goal and then work to solidify it permanently.
HERE'S THE OPPORTUNITY!
MY DAILY LESSONS AND DEVELOPMENT
DAILY POWER MESSAGE
This morning while meditating my mind went though my problems and one kept coming to my mind. I realized the solution to my problem was for me to do something I did not have the skill set to do. After I was done telling the story that didn’t help me I realized the answer was to ask someone for help.
This is a huge positive for me because ninnatter what I need to get done either I can do it or I can find someone to help me.
The lesson I learned is that I CAN ACCOMPLSIH ANYTHING because it’s either my skill set or I can ask for help. All I have to do is let go of my need to be everything.
HOW TO APPLY IT
When it comes to my health I can let go of my need to be an expert in fitness and nutrition and just ask for help.
When it comes to my spirituality I can either donlife on my own or I can thank my Heavenly Father on a daily basis for what he has give me and ask for something specific everyday.
When it comes to being a powerful influential father I can can either try to figure out how to influence my kids or I can actually have conversations with them every day about what they like.
When it comes to my business I can either spend months trying to create the spreadsheet that I really want for my business or I can ask someone I know who is an expert and Pay him to create one for me.
The revelation is that massive growth in my life and business is even more possible because I can do the work or let go of my need to be everything and ask for help.
MY COMMITMENT IN THE NEXT 48 HOURS
I am reaching out to my friend who I know is amazing at spreadsheets and I really like working with. If he can’t help me there is always www.fiverr.com
DAILY BUSINESS MESSAGE
READING EXPERT SECRETS by RUSSELL BRUNSON
WHAT I LEARNED
There are places online where I can search for how many people are searching google to find information I am an expert on. Like, ''How to build a business from home''. I can see how many people type that into Google every month and what comes up.
I am excited because it will help me get a clear idea of how I can distinguish myself from the top 3 search results. That's all anyone really looks at anyway.
I see the next step being research the search site. Research the top 3 results. Find out what my own personal angle is and how it's totally different. How what I do doesn't even make them a competitor like The Blue Ocean Strategy suggests.
MY POSSIBLE PROBLEM
Getting overwhelmed with the process.
MY PLAN TO OVERCOME IT
I will put the actions steps together and add them to my calendar so they are scheduled along with the other things I am already doing.
I am documenting my life and business journey. FULL TRANSPARENCY!
YOU CAN'T GROW WHAT YOU DON'T MEASURE
Think of actually growing a plant. How do you know how much water to give it if you don't look at it? How do you know if it's getting enough sunlight if you aren't checking on it form time to time during the day? How do you decide how well what you are doing is working if you don't take the time to measure how much things changed after you did the work on it?
WHY DO WE FEEL LIKE WE CAN GROW WITHOUT MEASURING WHERE WE ARE?
The main reason we don't take a measurement of where we are is because we are terrified of our own unfair judgments. We are never where we want to be and so there is always a focus on what we are doing wrong. Then because we focus on what we are doing wrong we actually label ourselves with words like "Lazy", "Unfocused", "Disorganized", "Unworthy" and then on and on we go beating ourselves up.
NO ONE LIKES TO BE REMINDED OR SHOWN HOW MUCH OF A FAILURE WE ARE
So we avoid doing the ONE THING that will actually make it possible for us to grow.
THAT CRAP HAS TO STOP NOW!
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There is a real "UPPER LIMIT" problem with all people. The most important step is finally to let go of our denial of it so we can actually do something about it. STRATEGICALLY!
HOW DO I DO THE WORK TO HELP MYSELF GET PAST MY LIMITING BELIEFS?
Here is a sample of a form I fill out every day. I think of some area of my life where I am telling STORIES that cause some kind of negative emotion.
Then I DO THE WORK!
This is not easy for me. I am totally opening myself up here to you. The only reason I am doing it because I believe somehow... my painful stories will help you realize you're not alone AND give you some direction on how to handle yours.
1. I started out awesome playing basketball this morning and then tired out REALLY FAST. It was frustrating.
The story I started telling myself was that I am too old for this. Upleveling myself physcally is going to be too hard and take too long.
3. Is that Story True? No... because I can't actually know that is true.
4. Are You 100% Sure that Story It’s True? No
5. The feelings that come up when I think it is true is I get sick physically and embarrassed.
6. The actions that directly follow this belief is that I want to quit. I want to stop coming to play ball with these guys who have been doing the work consistently
7. If I can step back away from this belief what I really want is to be in shape. I want Basketball to be fun. I want to love Basketball instead of fear it.
8. Will my current belief give me what I want? No
9. What would happen if the belief was NOT TRUE is I would be free to take the daily steps necessary to get my body going daily.
THIS WAS A POWERFUL REVELATION FOR ME BECAUSE I REALIZED I WAS CREATING ALL OF IT... ESPECIALLY SINCE I COULDN'T POSSIBLY KNOW IT WAS TRUE!
Now time to figure out a plan of action
The original belief was that I am too old to level up the way I really want to and need to in order to get what I want.
THE EVIDENCE I had that made think it was true is that it hurt today and I came near throwing up.
2a. WHAT IS A SCARY POSSIBILITY HERE? I don’t want to get in shape. I want to sleep in every day and still expand.
2b. The evidence I have for this is I did it for the last 6 months. Which is why I am where I am physically.
3a. What is the opposite of the original belief?I do want to get in shape and I’m not too old.
3b. The EVIDENCE I have that it's true is that I got up and I did the work. Even through it wasn’t pretty I was still able to do it.
4a. Which of these beliefs is the most desirable? That I am not too old. I am ready and I do want this.
4b. The Evidence I have that this is true us that I got up. I did the work. I am doing this work to make sure I am clear about my stories. I also just realized that I was subconsciously preparing to not do the work tomorrow morning.
5. After reviewing all the possible beliefs I am choosing the last version. It’s the ONLY version that will get me the results I want AND have promised to my wife and family. To the people who follow me and see me as a source of inspiration, leadership and training. If I don’t take this story on I will fail. It’s my only hope.
THAT IS HOW I REALIZED WHAT I WANT IS ALL MINE FOR THE TAKING... I JUST NEEDED TO LOVE ME AND THEN DO THE WORK.
Eddie Villa is a determined, uplifting, often obsessive and strong developing Network Marketing professional thanks to the success his wife Angela Villa had with dōTERRA. Meaning, it wasn't where he had originally thought his career in Property Management would lead him.